For nearly 6 months I have been corresponding with someone on myspace. I have yet to meet her in person. When I first saw her profile I thought she was so beautiful, not model beauty, but genuine beauty and a look of innocence, so I sent the first message and we began chatting on myspace mail. Soon we shared phone numbers and emails and began texting and messenger. After a few text messages, I was asked if it bothered me that she was deaf.....Ok, this should have been a red flag I know, but I decided then to see this through, to see what this person's angle was, if any. My response was "Does it bother you that I am tall?" After a few more days I was told of her having Hodgkins Lymphoma cancer and a diabetic. The story continues with her parents getting killed in a car crash by a drunk driver, leaving herself and an older brother as heirs to a very healthy inheritance, settlement by the drunk drivers insurance and a life insurance policy. Still, I continue with the correspondence none the less. However, in chatting throughout these months, she has maintained consistency in every aspect, in spite of several spouts of my doubt that she is for real. I've gone through her radiation and chemotherapy with her, the constant sickness, loss of hair, weight loss, vanity issues and her thoughts of giving in to the cancer. I have played the part of the supporter, the shoulder to cry on and the love of her life and her hope for the future. Once I was so overwhelmed with doubt, I threatened to end our correspondence. She in return seemed devastated and said without me in her life she had no reason to continue her treatments.....now you understand my dilemma!!!
What if??? What if this is all true? What if, even though this all has the makings of a fairy tale, it is genuine? What if our constant conversations and talks of love for each other is real? What if I succumb to my doubts, only to find out later she was real and to know that her love for me was real and I allowed her to die for that love?......She reported good news to me last week, that her doctor said her tumors were almost gone and treatments would end soon and remission looked very good. We had talked of finally being together and building the life together that we had been planning for months. Call me an old fool or a hopeless romantic, but I just can't deny the possibility of this being completely legitimate.
My question to this forum, has anyone here had a similar situation or is this a scam or what? Should I just play this out to the very end? What would YOU do???
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smartcookie
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Apr 15, 2009 11:44 PM
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This is definitely a scam.
Mark my word you will not meet her. She's only deaf so that you can't talk to HIM on the phone!
She will get hurt or have an attack or something the day she is supposed to meet you at the airport. You won't get to meet her but she will ask for money at that point.
Feel free to "play this out." But as soon as she asks you for money RUN!
and if she wants to put $$ inito your account and then you use Western Union to return some of the $$ to her...
Ha ha!! Run!
This person is grooming you and gaining your trust and your love.... It's fake. Sorry.
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ElSegundo
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Apr 14, 2009 11:46 PM
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Hey Gypz,
To tell you the truth, I think this is a scam. I've read about this before, and just saw something on TV about these kinds of scams too. It's probably one of those Nigeran scammers. They're clever, saying that they love you and want to marry you. They lead you away from MySpace and want you to email them at a yahoo or gmail email address. Then whenever you try to meet them, there's always some sort of excuse that sounds sometimes really tragic, like a death in the family, a car accident, a sickness. If she starts asking you for money, that would be a direct sign that she's a scammer.
I think that if you really want to find out if this person is a scammer, you should email MySpace. Give them the URL to her profile, and ask MySpace if she is a scammer. If they end up deleting the profile, I would take that as a sign that "she" is a scammer. That's what I would do.
I hope I'm wrong, but that's the best way to find out for sure.
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gypz
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Apr 10, 2009 3:32 PM
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Thanks for your feedback Olav, I am still on guard. I am also aware of the financial aid scams and people who just have nothing better to do than to make fake profiles for their own sick entertainment. Like I said, I am just gonna play it out to the end. If I detect any foul play, I will cease all contact. Supposedly in 5 weeks she will be done with cancer treatments and will come to my town via the local airport. I already informed this person if she is not the person in the pictures I will vanish from site in the crowded airport, never to be heard from again........however, if she's real, I will scoop her up and bring her home, lol. Thanks again. ~Gypz~
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olav
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Apr 10, 2009 3:43 AM
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Why not meet with her ????
This could be the real thing - BUT :
Here's my thoughts:
I am sorry to hear your story - sorry because I had hoped these incidents were long since buried in the early days of peer to peer communications.
To me this sound like a spin off of the so called Nigeria letters. Slowly gaining trust - before asking you for help - usually financial aid. Help to undergo surgery etc.
I may be wrong but what you desribed sounds quite similar to the term "grooming" (adult-kid relations in the net.)
Olav
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gypz
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For nearly 6 months I have been corresponding with someone on myspace. I have yet to meet her in person. When I first saw her profile I thought she was so beautiful, not model beauty, but genuine beauty and a look of innocence, so I sent the first message and we began chatting on myspace mail. Soon we shared phone numbers and emails and began texting and messenger. After a few text messages, I was asked if it bothered me that she was deaf.....Ok, this should have been a red flag I know, but I decided then to see this through, to see what this person's angle was, if any. My response was "Does it bother you that I am tall?" After a few more days I was told of her having Hodgkins Lymphoma cancer and a diabetic. The story continues with her parents getting killed in a car crash by a drunk driver, leaving herself and an older brother as heirs to a very healthy inheritance, settlement by the drunk drivers insurance and a life insurance policy. Still, I continue with the correspondence none the less. However, in chatting throughout these months, she has maintained consistency in every aspect, in spite of several spouts of my doubt that she is for real. I've gone through her radiation and chemotherapy with her, the constant sickness, loss of hair, weight loss, vanity issues and her thoughts of giving in to the cancer. I have played the part of the supporter, the shoulder to cry on and the love of her life and her hope for the future. Once I was so overwhelmed with doubt, I threatened to end our correspondence. She in return seemed devastated and said without me in her life she had no reason to continue her treatments.....now you understand my dilemma!!!
What if??? What if this is all true? What if, even though this all has the makings of a fairy tale, it is genuine? What if our constant conversations and talks of love for each other is real? What if I succumb to my doubts, only to find out later she was real and to know that her love for me was real and I allowed her to die for that love?......She reported good news to me last week, that her doctor said her tumors were almost gone and treatments would end soon and remission looked very good. We had talked of finally being together and building the life together that we had been planning for months. Call me an old fool or a hopeless romantic, but I just can't deny the possibility of this being completely legitimate.
My question to this forum, has anyone here had a similar situation or is this a scam or what? Should I just play this out to the very end? What would YOU do???
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Edited by gypz at 04/05/2009 8:23 PM
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