My oldest daughter s 26 and is broken ;( I have tried over and over again to help her, moving her every two months from different people's homes. She is so abusive, lies and the worst thing is I sometimes wonder if she really know how to tell the truth?! We do not get along and as much as I feel for her I know I cannot help her. She has been diagnosed as Bipolar but will not get not meds so whoever she lives with gets sick of her chaos destruction because she does care or appreciate anything! The 3rd day she was here (sharing a room w/16yr old sister) she has a guy sneak through the window and had him hidden sleeping where he wouldn't be seen! When I confronted her she said he's her family not us. She recently for 2nd time was in jail and had no place to go so I said only if she got a job and tried she can temporary move back. BIG MISTAKE! Not even 1week into this she gets in my face yelling & cursing & saying again, we are not her family, she hates us, does not need us. Why is she here? I don't want to kick her out because it's Christmas time and she is still my daughter but her hate has the whole family upset! The thought of her not having somewhere to go is my problem but it is hard not to care about my own! I love my daughter, but I do not like her. She is too old for tough love puts down religion and I don't think she will ever feel the pain she causes until she has kids of her own. I am so tired of her put downs, I need your help my knees hurt from praying! Please help this heavy heart.....
|
MPLEELOR
Posts:
2
Registered:
7/27/11
|
|
(2 of 2)
Re: My daughter says we are NOT her family!
Jan 9, 2012 5:22 PM
|
|
Dear mom,
I felt your pains and angers. I have a 26 yrs old daughter with 3 kids of her own. She's married, but soon to be divorce. She still show no respect for me. Thanks God, we live 2000 miles apart. She blamed me for not being there to help out with her kids, when I have a family of my own(husband, 12 & 17 yrs old daughters). She told me many time that I am a horrible mom & a bitch, and she will never be like me. She stop all contact with me. I tried to leave her alone, until she needed me. Another one of my daughter, the 17 yrs old. Same behavior as my 26. My 17 yrs old daughter told me she will not call me mom and will show no respect for me. I told her exactly where she came from, my VAGINA! Beside God, I am her creator! She does calm down a little bit and started to call me mom. For your situation, you are doing the right thing. Stand by her as long as you can and yes, it will hurt, but she's your daughter. And no matter how dumb and stupid they are, we still love them. I will pray for you.
|
|
|
Teri Jo 2
Posts:
3
From:
Montebello, Ca.
Registered:
12/17/11
|
|
(1 of 2)
My daughter says we are NOT her family!
Dec 17, 2011 3:17 PM
|
|
My oldest daughter s 26 and is broken ;( I have tried over and over again to help her, moving her every two months from different people's homes. She is so abusive, lies and the worst thing is I sometimes wonder if she really know how to tell the truth?! We do not get along and as much as I feel for her I know I cannot help her. She has been diagnosed as Bipolar but will not get not meds so whoever she lives with gets sick of her chaos destruction because she does care or appreciate anything! The 3rd day she was here (sharing a room w/16yr old sister) she has a guy sneak through the window and had him hidden sleeping where he wouldn't be seen! When I confronted her she said he's her family not us. She recently for 2nd time was in jail and had no place to go so I said only if she got a job and tried she can temporary move back. BIG MISTAKE! Not even 1week into this she gets in my face yelling & cursing & saying again, we are not her family, she hates us, does not need us. Why is she here? I don't want to kick her out because it's Christmas time and she is still my daughter but her hate has the whole family upset! The thought of her not having somewhere to go is my problem but it is hard not to care about my own! I love my daughter, but I do not like her. She is too old for tough love puts down religion and I don't think she will ever feel the pain she causes until she has kids of her own. I am so tired of her put downs, I need your help my knees hurt from praying! Please help this heavy heart.....
|
|
|
|
|
