thanks for the advice, she was a good kid when she was growing up.she had her maners, she seemed to change when she got married and moved away, her husband as never really got on with me and my husband he never makes conversation with us, but we just go along with it and try not to interfer with there business.i really do miss her but she seems so faraway,she seems to have a better relationship with his mum rather than me .i feel so bad sometimes because she never sends birthday cards or christmas cards to us or her gran i dont really know where we went wrong in bringing her up