Hi,

I hope somebody has som eadvice for me. I have been separated for three years and my divorce is almost final. I am raising my two children, 12 and 13, dad is partly involved, but we do not have a good relationship.
I met a wonderful man about 6 months ago, I never dated before that, I had organized my life around my children.
My man lives in a different state and we get to see each other about every six weeks.

My children got to meet him this summer and I was under the impression they liked each other. NOT!
My daughter (13) has been extremely "witchy" and refuses to even talk about my man since we returned home and says she never wants to go back to visit him again.
I suggested we get ttogether for Thanksgiving and she almost went ballistic.I am so confused!!!

I don't want to let my children decide who I see, but my man will be in my life for the long run and I want them all to get along.

Do I "force" my daughter to come with us and visit, or do I I give her the option to spend Thanksgiving with her dad instead?
She'll hate that and it might make her feel abandoned, but I don't want her to think she runs the show?
My son likes my man and is much more easy going about visiting again. Help!!!