Social Networking in Real Time

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I am new to this forum, so point me in the right direction if this point has already been touched upon.


I am happy to see a lot of posts about keeping children safe online. All of the articles offer sound best practices for online safety. But what happens when the phenomenon of social-networking spills over into the real world?

Inevitably, our children will meet people offline--coaches, teachers, day-care providers, friends and many others. Our kids may start even meeting people and recognizing them by their screen names. How is it possible to make sure that these people they come in contact with offline are good mentors or friends for our children?

Recent media events have put the focus squarely on the shoulders of teachers, but I believe a more holistic approach should be considered. Just because a teacher is allegedly responsible for an act against a child 10 years ago does not mean that only the backgrounds of teachers should be considered. Conversely, parents should not solely focus their attention to online venues when trying to protect their children from predators, bullies or reputation harm.

A recent article in the New York Times http://www.nytimes.com/2006/08/21/technology/21pedo.html?ex=1313812800&en=4ca4585011496b35&ei=5088&partner=rssnyt&emc=rss
shows the schemes pedophiles and others concoct to gain access to children.

In your opinions, do you think recent media attention has made parents more sensitive to Web predators whilst becoming more lax to those in "real time?"
Last Post Aug 25, 2006 9:13 AM by: birdswitharms
birdswitharms
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Re: Social Networking in Real Time

Aug 25, 2006 9:13 AM
Thanks Anne.

“I do think that's possible, but I'm also concerned that all the media attention to sexual predation is diverting needed attention away from two other "risks" on the social networks that will affect a great many more young social networkers than adult sexual predators: cyberbullying, or peer harassment, and the risk to reputations and academic and job prospects of over-exposure (usually self-exposure) of personal information."

Interestingly enough, whilst doing research for an article on teacher background checks, I came across some telling questions from young people on Yahoo Answers.

Already, teens and young adults entering the workplace are becoming more conscience of their online image. For instance:

"Should I just delete my MySpace profile now that employers and parents can look me up on there by name?"

and many variations of that question were all too common on the message boards.

Therefore, I agree with your statement about the "disappearing divide" and young people are starting to realize its impact. But as you said, “we need to help them develop the filter between their ears," to realize that social networking is not just an adolescent stopgap but an actual facet of "real" life.
Anne
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Aug 24, 2006 8:03 PM
Interesting question, birdswitharms. I do think that's possible, but I'm also concerned that all the media attention to sexual predation is diverting needed attention away from two other "risks" on the social networks that will affect a great many more young social networkers than adult sexual predators: cyberbullying, or peer harassment, and the risk to reputations and academic and job prospects of over-exposure (usually self-exposure) of personal information. The behavior behind these two risks is rarely illegal, so there's little law enforcement can do about it. Education and protection of kids in these areas fall on the shoulders of parents and educators, and I don't think they're hearing enough about either the issues or how to cope with them.

As for your question, I think we could be more holistic too, especially since - for youth - the line between online and offline is blurring. What will help them avoid trouble on both sides of that disappearing divide is critical thinking. Instead of relying too much on filters, we need to help them develop the filter between their ears, as my co-director Larry Magid started saying at Net-safety conferences years ago. Two articles on this site designed to help young people avoid manipulation are "How social influencing works" and "How to recognize grooming." Does that begin to answer your question? All best,
Anne
BlogSafety.com co-director

birdswitharms
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Social Networking in Real Time

Aug 24, 2006 1:50 PM
I am new to this forum, so point me in the right direction if this point has already been touched upon.


I am happy to see a lot of posts about keeping children safe online. All of the articles offer sound best practices for online safety. But what happens when the phenomenon of social-networking spills over into the real world?

Inevitably, our children will meet people offline--coaches, teachers, day-care providers, friends and many others. Our kids may start even meeting people and recognizing them by their screen names. How is it possible to make sure that these people they come in contact with offline are good mentors or friends for our children?

Recent media events have put the focus squarely on the shoulders of teachers, but I believe a more holistic approach should be considered. Just because a teacher is allegedly responsible for an act against a child 10 years ago does not mean that only the backgrounds of teachers should be considered. Conversely, parents should not solely focus their attention to online venues when trying to protect their children from predators, bullies or reputation harm.

A recent article in the New York Times http://www.nytimes.com/2006/08/21/technology/21pedo.html?ex=1313812800&en=4ca4585011496b35&ei=5088&partner=rssnyt&emc=rss
shows the schemes pedophiles and others concoct to gain access to children.

In your opinions, do you think recent media attention has made parents more sensitive to Web predators whilst becoming more lax to those in "real time?"