I have several blogs, I write, many of them have short stories, poems, and essays. One Blog is a daily journal, I started it so I could just write, as place where I could spew out my feelings, gut reactions, some scriptural emotions and so forth. Mt step-daughters have found it and are going balistic because I have first anmes in them of thier children; no last names, no addresses, no public information that can link preditors to any of them. They swear that they can take me to courth and that I am compamising my grandchildren by writing children stories about them on my children's literature blog, they say that a picture of my five year old grand daughter playing in mud in her underwear is child pornography, I have that picture under a poem titled muddy puddles. What can I tell them to get them off my back? I'm not changing my writing to soothe them! I own what I write, it is a part of who I am, I am being published soon and then what?
can anyone give me a heads up?
Confused granny
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Dot Calm
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Re: Using first names only!
Sep 26, 2006 12:06 PM
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Dear Granny,
I agree with you, but let me tell you something that I tell the parents when I give Internet safety seminars: Any child's picture that is published online is not safe. Any child pornographer can get that photo and do with it what he wants--using PhotoShop he can manipulate that image to portray any number of unspeakable images using your precious granddaughter's likeness--all without your knowledge or consent.
Is it right? NO! Is it fair? NO! Should you have the right to publish what you want? ABSOLUTELY! But you still need to keep these things in mind...for your grandchildren's sake. Because we live in a world where unfortunately the malicious among us seem to be granted more and more rights as the rest of us suffer.
Keep squawking about it and maybe one day people will see how nutty our society is when the rights of these miscreants count for more than regular people...
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Rasma
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Re: Using first names only!
Sep 26, 2006 9:45 AM
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Sorry, I misunderstood what you ment, they have no right to insult the picture that inspired a poem, I am a poet myself
And if your grandson that graduated he should be able to tell you if you can or can't put his picture up, he is an adult ask him
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grammaof23
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Re: Using first names only!
Sep 26, 2006 9:20 AM
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The picture is notany of thiers; she is my very own blood! I had a regular picture of one of their son's and when they asked me to take his graduation picture down I did so--tearfully.
but Ally is my blood grandchild, the one who saved me after loosing my son to an auto accident so no, I'm not going to do it if it does not look like porn.
Cathy
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Rasma
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Re: Using first names only!
Sep 25, 2006 5:45 PM
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Well just my feelings, since they are yout step-daughters children I think it would be best to do as they asked even if it is silly, it would be like someone posting your daughter online against your wishes.
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grammaof23
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Re: Using first names only!
Sep 25, 2006 1:23 PM
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No Anne,
I'm not,
The picture is under the Poem
Muddy Puddles
Cathy
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Re: Using first names only!
Sep 25, 2006 1:13 PM
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If you're talking about the slime picture and the 5-year-old's the one in being slimed, one can't even tell that's a child in there, much less who or how old. No, definitely not a problem. I'm sorry to hear you never get to see them. All best,
Anne
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grammaof23
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Re: Using first names only!
Sep 25, 2006 12:12 PM
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Anne,
you are more than welcomed to vitit this web page,
it is
www.writingsisters.com/kidlit
My granddaughter is SO covered in mud that it is all you can see. It is more innocent looking that children bathing in a tub. By the way, my son,and his wife of this child is a drug addict and have taken her far away, it has been over two years since I have seen her or her brothers... That is the last fun memory I have of her. And they want to taint it--
Cathy
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Re: Using first names only!
Sep 25, 2006 11:05 AM
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It does sound as if they're overreacting a little, Gramma23, since you're using no last names. To show you're listening (because compromises can help cool down tempers), it might not hurt to take down the photo of the 5-year-old in her underwear. It may not technically be defined as child pornography (I'd have to see it and probably also ask the people at CyberTipline.com at the NCMEC), but I'd be reluctant to post in a public site any photo of a minor not fully clothed.
But I think it's safe to say that if you're only using first names without photos associated with them, and you're not putting those names in a particular locality, they have nothing to worry about. What I usually do when using an interview with a child or teen in NetFamilyNews, or an interview with a parent referencing a kid, is change the minor's first name (making one up that sounds similar). And, like you, I don't use last names or get any more local than the name of the state or province the family lives in. Does that help?
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grammaof23
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Sep 25, 2006 10:48 AM
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I have several blogs, I write, many of them have short stories, poems, and essays. One Blog is a daily journal, I started it so I could just write, as place where I could spew out my feelings, gut reactions, some scriptural emotions and so forth. Mt step-daughters have found it and are going balistic because I have first anmes in them of thier children; no last names, no addresses, no public information that can link preditors to any of them. They swear that they can take me to courth and that I am compamising my grandchildren by writing children stories about them on my children's literature blog, they say that a picture of my five year old grand daughter playing in mud in her underwear is child pornography, I have that picture under a poem titled muddy puddles. What can I tell them to get them off my back? I'm not changing my writing to soothe them! I own what I write, it is a part of who I am, I am being published soon and then what?
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