I have blockers on for google searches for Porn. However, I cannot for the life of me figure out how to block my son from getting on porn pages on FB. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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Odai Abod
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Re: Preventing my teen from seeing Porn on Facebook
Apr 20, 2012 11:13 PM
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The best way you can do is to communicate to your son. Ask your son about the things he can get upon viewing porn pages. And explain to him that there are negative effects in his later life if he continue to be expose on porn at this early age. Tell him that there are things that we can't do until we're fully grown.
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Leonora
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Re: Preventing my teen from seeing Porn on Facebook
Nov 14, 2010 2:20 AM
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I agree, that the psychological moment comes first in such a situation, but I still think, that you need some nice parental control soft, just in case... I also have a son, and we made a good deal with him: I "officially" installed a program, called Time Boss parental control software (I wrote a lot about it in the topic for parental control software links), and we made the settings together (the program allows to set different time limits for sites and applications), I suppose, that this moment was very important, because he understood, that he really had the CHOICE. |
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Maureen
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Re: Preventing my teen from seeing Porn on Facebook
Oct 7, 2010 7:19 PM
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I’m so glad to hear the discussion was successful! It sounds like you explained your concerns in a calm, thoughtful way, and that really resonated with your son (instead of throwing him on the defensive, which happens so often during parent-teen discussions, especially ones involving uncomfortable subjects). ConnectSafely’s co-director calls these chats critical for developing the all-important “filter between kids’ ears,” which I think describes it perfectly.  Maureen -- Maureen Kochan ConnectSafely community manager |
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TylersMom
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Re: Preventing my teen from seeing Porn on Facebook
Oct 6, 2010 5:24 PM
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Yes, we've talked. In fact, we had the best discussion last night. A real breakthrough---where he said "thank you for talking to me," which melted me....knowing we should never give in to what society says is ok. I assured him that I know his curiosity is normal, but we do have values we want to uphold in our household and he knows this. He knows seeing porn is a sin, and I want to do what I can to keep it out of our house. My husband says he'd like the same restrictions for himself. It's just too tempting and if we can keep it out altogether, we'll find a way to do it. Thanks for the tips on the other options. I'll check them out. I was really at my wit's end last night, after reviewing the history, and i'm glad to have found this forum. I also will make the computer access in a more common room than my home office.
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Maureen
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Re: Preventing my teen from seeing Porn on Facebook
Oct 6, 2010 3:52 PM
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I'm not sure about the software you mention, but some, like Spector Pro and Norton Family, monitor individual pages within a social network (as opposed to simply blocking the whole site). Here's a good roundup of tools from GetParentalControls.org. That said, parental controls are not 100% foolproof, and kids are really good at coming up with workarounds. We always recommend telling kids about any parental control software you decide to use - it's a good jumping-off point for a discussion about your family's values and rules in this area (plus repercussions for violating those rules). Have you spoken with your son about your expectations? Maureen -- Maureen Kochan ConnectSafely community manager |
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TylersMom
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Re: Preventing my teen from seeing Porn on Facebook
Oct 6, 2010 12:44 PM
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Thanks for trying to help. However, those tips don't work. My son (who's 15) is going on pages on FB that have nudity on them. I checked the computer History to see where he's going and he's finding "boob" sites and kissing lesbians. I went to one that I thought I could stomach, and sure enough there was a big fat naked penis photo on the page. He is listed as under 18 (his real b-day); I'm not saying he's not screened from the ads. But he can search "boobs" on the search line and bang, there it is. I've set every privacy factor to limit stuff, but I can't seem to prevent any searches. We use BSecure for the filtering/blocking. I can block Facebook altogether, but can't prevent him from accessing these pornographic images while on FB. Like I said, I went to one page and "reported" it but I'd have 50 more pages to go report all of them.
I like FB ok, but am starting to think otherwise.
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Maureen
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Re: Preventing my teen from seeing Porn on Facebook
Oct 5, 2010 7:13 PM
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Hi and welcome Tylers mom, Facebook prohibits pornography (even FB ads can't contain or promote porn). But that doesn't mean nudity doesn't exist on the site - some images manage to slip through their filtering systems. When that happens, FB often relies on users to make a report via the button found next to all images. It's really impossible to say whether your son would ever stumble across a bad image. If he sticks to friends' profiles (people he knows in real life), the chances of him seeing something untoward generally go down. All that said, if he IS going to join FB, be sure to have him configure his account's privacy settings. (There's a video here that explains how.) I hope this helps to answer your question! All the best, Maureen -- Maureen Kochan ConnectSafely community manager |
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TylersMom
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Preventing my teen from seeing Porn on Facebook
Oct 5, 2010 5:18 PM
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I have blockers on for google searches for Porn. However, I cannot for the life of me figure out how to block my son from getting on porn pages on FB. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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