My daughter wants a My Space profile because she enjoys the creativity of creating a profile. I trust her but not others. I nees advice from parents of young teens.
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TheRealDealGoth
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Re: Do I let my 14 yr. old daughter join MySpace?
Feb 17, 2007 9:55 PM
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Personally, Myspace is a great site, filled with ALOT of really good people. I use it all the time.
What you really have to look at is:
Is my kid keeping personal info to them self?
Are 'they' adding the people with innapropriate photos?
Have they asked anyone a sexual question, or refered to a comment in a sexual manner?
Have they said anything that could lead someone on?
Are they replying to inap' messages sent to them?
I personally do not think you should restrict your daughter from MySpace, it's something to do whilst your bored.. It's ust how they approach it.
E: I have been making myspace profiles for a few years, trying out differant names, etc. I found that alot of people only encounter problems when they are really open about them selves, if someone was meeting up with other people and having sex with them because of MySpace, I honestly wouldn't speak to them, it's much like e-mail, just delete them from your contacts, avoid them in school, and all is usually cool.
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Re Nee
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Re: Do I let my 14 yr. old daughter join MySpace?
Feb 17, 2007 9:47 PM
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I am a teenager who, having a myspace and finding it okay, recommend letting your daughter have one. My reasons:
1.She'll come to realize on her own that you spend an hour on myspace on average everyday. About five minutes of that is actual conversation. The rest is this pathetic lull where you sit thtere staring at the screen pressing the refresh button. She will get bored.
2. There are a great multitude of ways to stop predators from learning of her. Be there when she is creating a myspace and set it on private. For where she lives say something stupid. Like mine is Alabama, Missouri.
3. DON'T put your last name. Put something like Smith, Jones, Johnson, etc.
4. Trust her. If you have raised her right she will know how to avoid the horrors that I know, and so do all of you, are on myspace.
5. Monitor it. Set down times when she can be on it and make it times when you are home.
6. You don't have to trust the others. If her settings are private you only have to trust her and her friends.
Best of luck and don't forget to have a little faith in her. Us young teenagers are not as innocent and impressionable as you guys might think.
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CarolA
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Re: Do I let my 14 yr. old daughter join MySpace?
Feb 17, 2007 9:26 PM
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I am the mother of four - two still in high school. Personally, my husband and I are really tech savvy people who feel the internet is really over-rated for kids - except for homework. We allowed MySpace for a while, but quickly realized it was a big mistake - full of other teens with porn-type photos, drug references, etc.. We got scared when some older guy (stranger) told our teenage daughter at work, "Hey, saw your MySpace." Our teens tell us of friends who meet older people on MySpace - one they know of even escapes each night to hang out with new cyber buddies and have sex. So, we pulled it. Honestly, they seem happier - less pressure. And, we talk at dinner at night and keep in touch with them.
Would any of us allow our kids to stand out on the corner and talk with whomever? No.
Would any of us allow our kids to just chat away on the phone with a stranger? No.
They aren't old enough to have the entire world at their fingertips. Also, remember that there are problems with cyber-stalking, even amongst teens at the same school.
So, don't be afraid to be un-hip. We just allow homework usage on the family computer located off the kitchen (no chance at privacy). We don't allow computer use at night after bed - we use password protection and blocked instant messaging. Honestly, they can use the IM, MySpace, etc,... when they are older. For now, it's best to let them be kids.
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DARE Officer
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Re: Do I let my 14 yr. old daughter join MySpace?
Feb 17, 2007 11:09 AM
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Overall Myspace is not a bad site. However, they have also encountered several problems as have other similar sites. Your daughter can register as a member on Myspace but her profile will be private due to her age.
MySpace has been making good strides to improve it's site from predators and have been montoring and removing memebrs who post nude pictures or other inapporate pictures or postings. However, they are not perfect.
If you've watched any of the NBC DATELINE programs most of the predators were found on Myspace or similar sites.
If she does join my suggestion would be that you establish a rule that she can only go online with you present.
Officer Jim Winn
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Anne
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Re: Do I let my 14 yr. old daughter join MySpace?
Feb 16, 2007 11:42 AM
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So, davidoweir, did you switch to some other social-networking service, or just drop it altogether? What are you using now?
Anne
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davidoweir
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Re: Do I let my 14 yr. old daughter join MySpace?
Feb 16, 2007 11:25 AM
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i would say no to it coz i did have myspace
i is crap
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Rasma
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Re: Do I let my 14 yr. old daughter join MySpace?
Feb 16, 2007 11:11 AM
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I mostly say no because I don't like the myspace layout with coding since it has some serious problems with it then also HTML is just more useful and safer then myspace since HTML is also a marketable. Then myspace is posted on the net and asks for personal information. And even though myspace does have protective measures I would still recommend going a different direction. Personally I also recommend HTML because I find it funner.
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B-Wize
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Re: Do I let my 14 yr. old daughter join MySpace?
Feb 16, 2007 8:38 AM
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I think that if you start restricting kids to what they can and can't view.. when it comes to something as popular as myspace, you're asking for trouble. The child can just as easily go to a friends house and login/signup. Myspace is a good comunity aslong as you're aware of what can go on. Which is where the parent should step in and be down to earth with their teen. Let them know what sort of people can be on there, ask them to talk to you if they come across anything they don't understand or like.
And there's always programs that monitor chat conversations if you're that worried.
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Re: Do I let my 14 yr. old daughter join MySpace?
Feb 15, 2007 8:16 AM
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Rasma, why do you say "no"?
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Anne
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Re: Do I let my 14 yr. old daughter join MySpace?
Feb 14, 2007 6:44 PM
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jamesacap, sounds like she'd be just fine on MySpace if she's truthful about her age at signup and you establish some ground rules. On the age point, MySpace has special protections for 14- and 15-year-olds, including private, non-searchable profiles. Her profile wouldn't be accessible to the community at large. For rules, one might be that no one but people she knows and you know are on her friends list and another that you need to check out her profile every now and then with her, shoulder-to-shoulder. If you want to check on it remotely and/or randomly, you might want to establish your own account (won't take more than 5 min., and you don't have to upload a photo or answer any questions or fill in any blanks you don't want to) and have her add you to her friends list. That way, you can check out her profile when you feel it's a good idea, hopefully allowing her some privacy appropriate to her developing maturity.
Janis Wolak, UNH researcher and co-author of many studies out of the Crimes Against Children Research Center, told me that the only real risk of exploitation is when kids talk about sex with people they don't know online (and go to meet them in "real life"). I bet your daughter wouldn't do that. But she'd have less opportunity to do so on MySpace than a lot of other places online, since people would have to know her full name or email address to even ask to be on her friends list (which is the only way they could view her full profile or comment on it) - that's one of the protections for MySpace's youngest members.
Does that help? Hope so. Do let us know how it goes - and tell us what rules you work out in your family.
Anne
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Rasma
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Re: Do I let my 14 yr. old daughter join MySpace?
Feb 14, 2007 6:44 PM
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I am not a parent but I am in my late teens and I would say no if she wants to use creativity mabey show her HTML that allows you to make a website  -- -Rasma |
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jamesacap
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Do I let my 14 yr. old daughter join MySpace?
Feb 14, 2007 6:34 PM
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My daughter wants a My Space profile because she enjoys the creativity of creating a profile. I trust her but not others. I nees advice from parents of young teens.
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