While I find it highly admirable that you want to be involved in your daughter's life and to stop her from becoming something that she will later regret, I would also like to point out that by worrying so and monitoring her every move online is going to make her only go for it more. And hello, if you delete that account, she can make another. It's an endless process, my dear--you cannot control your daughter, as hard as you may try. That's exactly what it comes across as--simply controlling her, and not referring to the better kind, like teaching her manners, but instead the wicked stepmother route. That is so wrong, and if you think that's going to help her one bit, you are an idiot, lady. Even if you get the sneaky spyware like the Violetta recommended, she will eventually find out about it and most likely hate you for it.
I recommend against it with every fiber of my being--let her do what she wants, as long as she doesn't hand out any dangerous information, like name, region, city, any of that that could end up seriously hurting her. Let her know that you're worried about her--this does not require yelling in any shape or form--and that you want the best for her, and perhaps she'll end up feeling guilty enough that she'll take of those pictures.
My point is--let her have her freedom and don't suffocate her, cause all you'll end up with is a dead person. I've seen it happen, and for your sake, I hope it doesn't occur.
There are a lot worse things than letting her have her way for once.

Thanks for posting, franticmom. Federal privacy law does prohibit MySpace and any other ISP from sharing the identity and other info of its users with 3rd parties. So a parent's request for deletion is really all they can do (though Maureen is double-checking that for you), and that sometimes takes time because it's not easy to prove any identity online, including a parent's. On the Web, anyone could pose as her parent and request deletion. Meanwhile, have you talked with her about her profile? Maybe she'll just show it to you. Or you could suggest some repercussions, maybe, if she doesn't. But it's so important to keep the lines of communication open, if possible' because it's so easy for teens to "go underground" where parents have no influence at all and kids can be at greater risk. But she's probably just fine, since the vast majority of teen social networkers are just socializing with their friends at school. Some are acting out or participating in a kind of popularity contest, and that's when it's good for parents to be in the picture to help ease overexposure and other behavior that can affect reputations, college admissions, job prospects, or just self-esteem. I hope this helps. All best, --Anne --
Anne Collier
ConnectSafely co-director

Hello,
I was recently informed that my 14 year old daughter has a myspace account that contains some pictures that I would prefer not to have up. I have installed monitering software on my home computer, but my feeling is that she is using a computer outside of home to access the site. I have contacted myspace, and they have told me that the only option that I have is to remove my child's profile. I am have asked for access to my daughter's account to determine if she has been communicating inappropriately and have recieved notice that this is not possible for unspecified legal reasons. Does anyone have any insight into this? What are my real options here?
Thanks you for any help you can provide.