I have a 14 year old daughter who had a falling out with her 2 best friends about 4 months ago. The 2 ganged up on the one and it has been a tumultuous ride since but my daughter is doing much better. She has branched out and made new friends, talks to me and informs me of everything. First it started with texts, sneers at school, etc.... Then the harrassment on MySpace started (I monitor her site nearly everyday) so I wrote a letter to the parents of the girls. I never got a phone call, an apology or an invite to discuss. Their MySpace pages were shut down so that was a blessing. Apologies in the form of texts came from the girls but they talked out of both sides of their mouths. I realize that friendships can end and that has been a hard lesson for my daughter and many tears later she is learning some of life's hard lessons but the problem is that it won't stop! They posted a video on YouTube calling her a slut and a whore (poor kid has never even been kissed by a boy, I am rather strict!). I learned of it too late because I showed up at school to take her to an ortho appt and they saw me and thought I was there because of the video (rather egocentric these two!). They revealed the nature of the video to another girl who told my daughter about it. My presence there scared them into taking the video off YouTube. We have tried going through the school counselor who was inept at best at trying to resolve this with the girls so that only seemed to perpetuate the situation. School is now out for the summer (thank God above) but now she gets prank calls from anonymous callers, they have walked by our house to go to an elementary school park when they could have more easily walked behind our house to avoid us seeing them and now there is another video on YouTube. This one is more benign, the girls are screaming like a horror film and saying they thought they saw my daughter's face and then they showed her baby picture on the video that was in the yearbook. It is hard for me to imagine why they continue this behavior (I blame bad parenting and the lack of being able to empathize with others) but they continue to be obsessed with my daughter who they chose not to be friends with (she tried in earnest to salvage the friendship) and supposedly want nothing to with anymore. I am at a loss. I know it may seem benign but it has affected our lives, affected her schoolwork, her feelings of self worth (what is about me that is so awful to warrant such attention stuff) and makes me so damn mad I can hardly see straight! We have coached our daughter to ignore it, do not give back what she is getting and blah, blah, blah but yet they continue. What can we do really?
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Blondie
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Re: Is my daughter being cyberbullied still?
Jul 2, 2009 10:10 AM
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wow! As a young woman who has recently finished school this whole business of cyber bullying and how the internet really can be used to hurt people really upsets me. I guess I am the generation that just missed all of this.... and boy am I glad. I cannot believe how nasty young people have become. They really don't have any understanding how their actions are irreversible and can be wide spread. Once things go out on the internet you cannot get them back. Wow.
I hope your daughter is okay, and I hope she is never faced with this sort of treatment again.
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lorijean321
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Is my daughter being cyberbullied still?
Jun 9, 2009 6:44 PM
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I have a 14 year old daughter who had a falling out with her 2 best friends about 4 months ago. The 2 ganged up on the one and it has been a tumultuous ride since but my daughter is doing much better. She has branched out and made new friends, talks to me and informs me of everything. First it started with texts, sneers at school, etc.... Then the harrassment on MySpace started (I monitor her site nearly everyday) so I wrote a letter to the parents of the girls. I never got a phone call, an apology or an invite to discuss. Their MySpace pages were shut down so that was a blessing. Apologies in the form of texts came from the girls but they talked out of both sides of their mouths. I realize that friendships can end and that has been a hard lesson for my daughter and many tears later she is learning some of life's hard lessons but the problem is that it won't stop! They posted a video on YouTube calling her a slut and a whore (poor kid has never even been kissed by a boy, I am rather strict!). I learned of it too late because I showed up at school to take her to an ortho appt and they saw me and thought I was there because of the video (rather egocentric these two!). They revealed the nature of the video to another girl who told my daughter about it. My presence there scared them into taking the video off YouTube. We have tried going through the school counselor who was inept at best at trying to resolve this with the girls so that only seemed to perpetuate the situation. School is now out for the summer (thank God above) but now she gets prank calls from anonymous callers, they have walked by our house to go to an elementary school park when they could have more easily walked behind our house to avoid us seeing them and now there is another video on YouTube. This one is more benign, the girls are screaming like a horror film and saying they thought they saw my daughter's face and then they showed her baby picture on the video that was in the yearbook. It is hard for me to imagine why they continue this behavior (I blame bad parenting and the lack of being able to empathize with others) but they continue to be obsessed with my daughter who they chose not to be friends with (she tried in earnest to salvage the friendship) and supposedly want nothing to with anymore. I am at a loss. I know it may seem benign but it has affected our lives, affected her schoolwork, her feelings of self worth (what is about me that is so awful to warrant such attention stuff) and makes me so damn mad I can hardly see straight! We have coached our daughter to ignore it, do not give back what she is getting and blah, blah, blah but yet they continue. What can we do really?
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