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Please Please Please advise me.....My 15 year old child is the problem...the backgrould is that Her dad has been out of the picture since she was 3. My current husband of 12 years and I have a 12 year old daughter. After much verbal abuse ( controlling, not allowed to have friends etc.) we finally seperated. My 15 year old never liked him and continually asked me to leave him as he never treated her fairly. We lived in a very small town where his entire family lives, so I left him and moved to my moms area which is in the same state, but 3 hours away. Now the PROBLEM. My 15 year old has a boyfriend who she feels that she loves. She is refusing to leave that area now and hates me for telling her she has to. All of a sudden, she no longer hates my ex (because he affords her the ability to stay there near her boyfriend. To complacate things more, my ex has moved out of state, so she is now staying with his mother (step grandmother) I am so upset I dont know what to do. I feel that if I try to force her, she will wont stay, and just run away. I am so afraid that if i involve the police to force her to come to me, she will resent me even more and just run away. Right now she is a straight A student, and i just know that if she is forced she wont care about that anymore, and will rebel. Please Please Please advise me. What can happen if I allow her to stay there with her step grandmom.Can I get in trouble? HELP ME PLEASE (i live in virginia)c

you should be very strict here....no sweet words and all....You should clearly tell about the concequences....
Then only she can understand that the seriousness of this crime.....linea erotica

builds good relationships and don't let her be a troubled teenagers. If you start showing her more respect maybe she will respect herself and others around her. I am not saying that you shouldn't stand up for yourself but someone has taught her to be that way. She needs to see someone be respectful, care, and have good relationship boundaries.

Hi I hope things are on there way to being sorted. I think sitting down and telling your daughter how much you love her and are hurting over what she is doing, tell her you dont want to involve outside help but because you just dont know what to do or where to turn you are. Try to talk calmly about what is going on why she is doing this, because deep down she must be hurting. I know I know you have probably tried but count to ten and try to get through by telling her you love her spend more time with her doing things together.
You probably tried this but I know when my daughter went through some stuff I sat in her bedroom and told her how much I loved her and was hurting cried with her and although still far from being an angel I think she saw I was really there for her and was hurting as I am sure you are.
Explain at 13 she has a whole life ahead of her that she is on her way to destroying.

Thanks for your post, DGN2133. I hope other parents will weigh in if they’ve had/are having similar issues.

It sounds like you need to set up some time to have a calm discussion with your daughter rather than communicating in a reactionary way. Explain your concerns about the time she’s spending online, the apparent secrecy, and that you’re worried about her safety because you’ve read about the risks of teenagers talking to strangers online. She probably won’t want to talk about it, but explain to her anyway that it’s your job as her mom to protect her.

Get with her grandmother and establish some ground rules for your daughter’s Internet use. They can include no communicating with people you don’t know; no meetings offline with people she doesn’t know in person; certain times it’s allowed (after homework, before dinner); etc. Make sure she uses the Internet in a high-traffic area of the home, and set limits on the number of hours she can spend online. Talk to her (again, in a matter-of-fact, non-confrontational way) about the consequences if she doesn’t comply.

Simply banning the Internet rarely works because she can access it in so many places beyond the home, and it’s harder to monitor her activity if she just chooses to use the Internet someplace else. There are several good monitoring programs on the market that will track her online activities (Check out the searchable database of parental-control tools at GetNetWise.org). We feel it's best for parents to be up front about monitoring, but if you feel that telling her you're monitoring her online activity will send her "underground," then you might not want to tell her.

And hang in there - I'm sure she'll thank you one day.

Good luck and all the best,

Maureen

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my daughter posts herself older than what she is online meeting guys and writting nasty stuff she dyed her hair jet black and wears black clothes i discovered this when i typed google in to download antivirus on her computer it came up all these nasty porn sites and i searched her pictures too u dont even want to know what i discovered it was so nasty i confronted her about this she got mad called me horrible names say she wished id dye and that she was going to kill herself i grounded her from her computer and for a while she was ok then i discovered she had done more she posted nasty blogs on myspace and my yearbook ande her pictures looked as though she was on drugs i called socialservices trying 2 get her concilling but they have not bothered getting her help she is so smart she deleted the parental codes off the computer she lives with her grandmother and she sneaks out to meet boys at 300 in morning i have told the grandmother about this she does nothing she even has her her age as 16 and 17 on these sites and i discovered she has men added to her page 683 last i checked she kind of blocked me completely after i confronted her and she called me horrible names i have tried to get her conciling through socialservices but they not come plese help me before she drives me crazy