I know exactly where you are coming from hun!! I am having terrible problems with my 10 year old because of content she sees (and can do with IMVU) online. I have all the parental controls on and she can circumnavigate them all!! What annoys me is that these websites which have links to porn do not come under the "over 18" regulations because their content isn't porn. That to me is deliberately luring in young teens, and in some cases intelligent pre-teens who want to be teens too early!! I can't even let my daughter go out on her own now for fear of innapropriate behaviour she may display. They just don't understand at that age, and if they see a grown up do something they assume it's ok to do. There are still too many years ahead of them before the unconditional trust of adults can be replaced by making their own judgements. I can't even easily contact IMVU to get her account deleted!! There are bound to be parents out there who are thinking "You should have more control over what your child is doing", but when you are faced with a child who can out think you the majority of the time, it is hard to find a way to beat them. Currently we are at a 'fingerprint scan door lock for the room the computer is in' stage because I see no other way of permanently keeping her off line. She can crack passwords and codes, has set up her own email address and I have no idea what it is or even where it is and she goes to great lengths to avoid me finding out, which in itself is a worry! I also have her 9 year old sister copying her and viewing content with her, and it is her sister who gives me most of the information on what is going on, because she at least knows that what she is seeing is not right and an adult should be told!!

We had similar issues with our grand daughter. Our Son is doing the brunt of work now with his kids, but the best solution we found was to monitor the activity. How do you do that without being intrusive? It's been a challenge. We found some interesting information and help here teenage sexting. If nothing else it shows that we are not alone with these problems and some solutions to monitoring our kids to keep them safe are discussed and reviewed.

Man, the world we live in today is scarey... It was not like this in the 50's when I was a kid.

I have had the same problem. My 12 year old daughter named Sierra was a website called Girls Go Games and she asked me if I could make an account for her. I asked her why and she said one of her friends had an account. I thought about it and then asked her if she got any games that you wouldn't get if you didn't have an account. She said that there wasn't any difference. I told her no. A few days later I had gotten home from work early and I saw her on the computer. I asked her what she was doing and then she closed it and yelled, " What are you doing home?". I said that I took off early so I could spend time with her. She said oh and I told her that we were going to have dinner in an hour so she could go to her friend Chelsea's house. While Sierra was gone I got a call from her friend Madison's mom saying that Madison was fighting with Sierra on girlsgogames.com. I told Madison's mom that Sierra didn't have an account. Madison's mom said that she does so I asked what Sierra's username was. I got her username and I made an account on the website and sent her a friend request on it. She responded saying yes. I looked at her message board and saw that her friend Madison was arguing with Sierra. I told Sierra that I didn't want her on the website. A few days later I told her that if she didn't argue with anybody she could go back on. After a few weeks I looked at her message board and saw a website on it. It said pornhub.com. I looked at her message board again and it said, " Those videos are great! Do you know any other websites?" I called Madison's mom because Sierra was at Madison's house and said that I needed Sierra to come home. When she got home I said why is this on here. She said one of my friends told me about it so I thought it would be ok to look at it. After a while I said that I would tell her father. She started crying and saying I didn't know. After her dad got home he grounded her for 3 months. I locked her log-in on the computer. She was in huge trouble. I figured out that her friends Madison and Chelsea had seen it too. I called their parents and Madison was in huge trouble but Chelsea's mom didn't care. I thought great now my daughter is going to hang out with a porn addict! I told Sierra that Chelsea watches the stuff all the time so Sierra couldn't hang out with Chelsea any more. She said she was fine because Chelsea was always watching porn. I got so angry! Please tell me what to do because I don't. I already called Chelsea's parents about it but they didn't care.

In 1-2 years your child will become a girl. In 1-2 years she can have a child her own! I know it is not normal to become a mother in such young age, but it is a fact. I think she should know about sex and about how to make children. My mother present me a book in 10 years about anatomy of girls and boys, about how to make children and so on. And it is normal development for children. It does not mean she will have a sex in her 10 years!

Please can you help, I'm at my wits end.

A few weeks ago, my daughter told me that she had look at porn, whilst using a site called "Stardoll".
she had click on some links that were regularly posted on one of there groups!
She didn't tell me straight away, because she feared how I might react!

I confided in my best friend, who advised me to talk to her (Which I already had).

Anyway, 2 weeks ago, this same friend call me up and said that her 4yr old child, had said that my daugher has "Hurt Her Bum" Now thats as much as I know!
I asked my friend if she could ask her daughter, "If she had been hurt with a wipe or a tissue" just to try and rule out any wrong doings! She refused and said that she wasnt prepared to interrogate her child!

I pluck up the courage to ask my child, if any thing had gone on, and she said no, looked me dead in the face and said no! I believe her, Not only because she's my child but because I saw it in her eyes, You know your own child, right?

How do I deal with this??